Tuesday, August 6, 2013

11/23/12 – Prayer Circle

The group gathered after dinner for an info session and an official meet and greet.  Sr. Jocelyn reviewed some important details of the pilgrimage and then invited everyone in the circle to offer a brief introduction of themselves.  I made a concerted effort to keep mine short and offered few details of my faith, or more accurately my lack of it.  Others were far more expressive and eloquent, especially Rod, a Sioux Indian from Alberta who was travelling with Doreen, his wife of 45 years.  When asked what he wanted to take home from this trip Rod said “I would be happy with just a rock, if only because there’s a chance that Jesus has touched it."

Many of the pilgrims were there to celebrate their faith, but there were also some who admitted to coming because they had suffered a tragedy in their lives.  All of the tragedies had to do with lost spouses; some due to death others due to divorce.  Either way, there was a lot of pain in this room.  I felt like walking over to them and giving them a hug.  It seemed cruel to listen to their pain without offering a genuine sign of compassion.

And finally it was dad’s turn.  He spoke about how happy he was to finally have made this journey after his plans from four years ago fell apart.  In recent years dad had been attending bible study and he told the group how blessed he felt to be able to see what he had studied first hand.

My resolve was tested once again when Sr. Jocelyn asked everyone to join hands and repeat the our father.  I felt like a fraud and a sham, but I didn’t want to draw attention to myself and I certainly didn’t want to offend the devout group before me.  I bowed my head, joined hands with Mary from North Bay and Faye from Port Perry and repeated the Lord’s Prayer.  Every so often I snuck a peek at my father to see if he was watching me.  He knew I wouldn’t be enjoying this but I’m sure he was happy that I was going through the motions.

It’s funny.  I haven’t been to church in years and haven’t prayed in any meaningful fashion for even longer, but the words of those prayers stick with you.  There’s just no way around this one simple fact: I can reject and resist it all I want, but I was indoctrinated.  Such a condition has long lasting side effects, spontaneous group prayer being one of them.

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